I was in 6th grade at the time and the only girl at my church that age. When I entered the youth department I idolized the older girls who were in high school. I thought the high school girls were ‘all that’! In my mind they were really cool and super spiritual. I looked up to those girls as role models. They were really accepting of me and let me follow them around activities and youth camp.
One day I was around some of those older girls and I overheard them talking about some pretty serious stuff. They were talking about sneaking out at night during youth camp to go smoke and make-out with guys as well as when the last time they drank alcohol. They discussed how they sneak around without their parents knowing. Over hearing them talk like this really confused me. These were the same girls I heard testify and request prayer for their classmates at school, whom they were witnessing to. The same girls who in their pretty Sunday clothes got up to sing specials in front of the congregation. I realized then that they were living a double life.
I felt betrayed.
Devastated, I left the conversation and cried.
How could they act one way at church and then live a secret life behind the eyes of their parents and youth Pastors? How could I look up to fake people? Who could be my role model now?
It did not take long before those girls were out of church completely. Their lives fell apart as they stepped out of God’s will. Some ended up alone and pregnant, others divorced and some addicted to substances.
It felt like 5 minutes had pass before I looked around and realized that I was the oldest girl in my youth department and others were going to be looking up to me. Remembering how I felt in 6th grade, when those girls let me down, I decided that I could never do that to others. I made a commitment that I was going to live 100% for Christ and do my best to be a good example.
Of course I failed at times and struggled with sin. I battled the urge to gossip and sometimes had a bad attitude towards my parents and family. But I had a motivation behind me and my heavenly Father guiding me. I finished High School, stayed faithful and involved in church graduated without the scars that so many young women have.
I want to encourage you in a few ways today:
Maybe you are looked up to by younger girls.
Are you a Godly example? Have you let them down or are you pointing them towards Christ?
If you have not been the greatest role model I have good news for you! It’s not too late.
Forgiveness is what makes Christ’s Grace so amazing
When my older brother started making poor decision I was really bitter toward him. I was bitter that he was hurting my parents and taking advantage of everyone around him. I also started to get bitter toward my parents for always taking him back and helping him. I saw how much he displeased God and my parents and I could not figure out why my parents still loved him. Then one day I saw it. I saw how my brother was no different than how God saw me. I often times fail and displease God and no matter what, God still takes me back every time and loves and cares for me. My parents were showing God’s love and grace to my brother. They are keeping their relationship alive so that they can be a good influence on him and his family. They are keeping their relationship together so that they can show God’s great love and power.
You need to repent to Christ and start making better choices. Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Maybe you have been let down by those around you.
Don’t let this discourage you or hurt your walk with Christ. People are sinful and that is why we need Jesus Christ. While it is not a bad idea to have a Godly example, Christ is our ultimate example. The Bible can guide us, we can use Ephesians 5 as a map. I challenge you to read Ephesians 5 and jot down ways that Paul shows us how Christians should live life with Christ’s example.
Ephesians 5 – (KJV)
1 Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.
3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
4 Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.
5 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
6 Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.
7 Be not ye therefore partakers with them.
8 For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:
9 (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)
10 Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.
11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
12 For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
13 But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light.
14 Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light.
15 See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
16 Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
17 Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.
18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
19 Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.